Are You The Victim of Your Own Self-Talk?

Is you life just a series of “self-fulfilling prophecies”? I am sure you know what this means, but if not, it refers to our ability to imagine that an event will happen to us and then we watch as it unfolds just as we imagined.

Usually when people think of self-fulfilling prophecies they refer to all of the bad things that occur in their lives.

This is because we worry so much about what it will be like when they do finally occur and this just sends out a message that we are expecting the accident, the illness, the lay-off at work, or the breakup in our relationship. And what happens, but what we expect.

I read somewhere that worry is just like praying for something we don’t want to happen.

So, if worrying is a good way to make something occur that you don’t want, then what can we use to make things occur that you do want?

The New Testament encourages us to think on things that are good, lovely, honest, pure and which cause a good report. It says for us to let these images fill our minds and hearts instead of those of gloom, doom and despair.

Often, before they occur, the subjects of our self-fulfilling prophecies show up and occupy our thoughts and they drift down and find expression in the things we say. We find ourselves talking about the things that we are worried about.

So what have you been talking about this past week? Have you found yourself saying any of the following statements?

  • This is the worst week of my life.
  • I expect this will never work out.
  • I can’t imagine how this will ever change or get better.
  • These all result in things not working and maybe even getting worse.

So how do we change this?

How do we make things happen differently in our lives?

One technique that I like to us is self-talk. Many people refer to this as using an affirmation. You might notice that the root of affirmation is “affirm” – to agree to, to say yes to.

Using affirmation is all about saying yes to what do want to happen in our lives instead of what we don’t want.

It changes our focus to one of allowing he good instead of resisting what we don’t desire. This helps us to cultivate good, positive and life-affirming and enhancing expectations.

So here are just a few affirmations that I love to use. Please feel free to leave you comments about any of these and also, if you have affirmations that you use, share them with all of us.

  • I am grateful for all that I have.
  • I am a vessel through which good flows.
  • I am a beloved child of God and I don’t inherit sickness.
  • I attract only good into my life by expecting only good.

Use these affirmations frequently and say them with conviction. Let yourself begin to feel what it is like for these words to be true. And as you do, this will keep you focused on the good,positive and life-enhancing expectations that you wish to manifest in your life.

And my friends, you will attract it!


Several years ago, I went to a White Stone service at church. I hadn’t ever been to one before and was excited to see what might happen. (This is based on the scripture in Revelations 2:17 where God gives to us a white stone with a new name written on it. )

Click here to read my post describing the service and here to read my blog post of my reaction after the service.)

After I received my stone, I heard the following word in my heart — available.
I’ve had this stone sitting by my computer ever since. But unfortunately that’s all it is — just a stone with a word written on it sitting by my computer.

But now, in this year 2017, I’m making an intention to allow the word I was given — available — to enter into my heart and life.

  • I intend to make myself available to God, Spirit, the Universe or whatever name we want to call it.
  • I intend to be available to gratitude and thanksgiving.I intend to be available to give and receive all the blessings that life has to offer both to and through me.
  • I intend to discover new ways to minister. I went to seminary and then began the Fort Worth Church Project. This means of ministry ended in 2012. Since then I’ve been floundering — but NOW I want to be available and open to new ways to reach out and share the message of my heart.

Available — I think it’s frightening to me to really be available. Afraid that it might have made me something I didn’t want to be. Or it might have taken away something I didn’t want to lose.

But now I believe that it’s going to take me and expand everything wonderful about myself and my life. Maybe things will leave, or be sifted out. But now I think I’m ready because if they can be sifted out then maybe they don’t need to be a part of my life anymore.

Maybe you’re ready now to make a new beginning in your life too.You don’t need a physical white stone to do this. Just hold out your hands and imagine Life placing a beautiful white stone in your hands with a wonderful new name or word written on it. Allow Spirit to whisper in your heart this wonderful word that’s to guide your life now. (If you want you can share this word with us and we can hold your intention with you.)

I’ll be sharing with you my intentions, my messages and my blessings this year through this blog. Feel free to share yours also.

New Intentions Create A New Life

Well, here we are halfway though February. Most people have probably already abandoned their New Year’s resolutions. And this is often a source of guilt in our lives.

But instead of feeling guilty, maybe this is a really good time to set a new intention to have a wonderful life this year.

Let me share with you some suggestions for having a tremendous life this year and every year. I am going to share 5 suggestions, 3 in this post and 2 in my next one. So be sure and watch for the next post. You can get it in your inbox by using the subscribe button.

Here are my life changing suggestions.

Choose Happiness

Often we act as if happiness is something that comes to us from things or people outside ourselves. But there is just not a bit of truth to this idea.

Happiness is a choice.

Happiness is an inside job. It starts inside and works its way out into our world.

We can choose to be happy in spite of all the “stuff” that is going on around us. We can go into that inner space of silence and allow the peace, joy and happiness to well up in our lives. Then, as we do, we can be changed. We can be happy.

Maybe nothing has changed in our exterior world but we have been changed inside. And as we are, then we are the change we wish to see in our world and the world looks different to us.

Being negative is not going to change anything and it will just end up making your life miserable. So let yourself be happy and positive and see how your experience of the world changes.

Change Your Words, Change Your World

We begin inside by changing our thoughts and making a new choice to be happy. Then we let our thoughts change the words we speak.

So speak to the situations in your life and say positive, life affirming words to them.

This principle is found in the Bible where it says, “Let the weak say ‘I am strong.’”

And as you begin to think positive and happy thoughts and you then say positive and happy words you will find your mental computer beginning to be reprogrammed.

Dare To Be Who You Really Are

You are a unique creation and a child of God created in God’s image.

Allow yourself to offer to your world the unique gifts and talents that only you have to offer. If you don’t, then who will?

Be the love that you are.

Be the success that you are.

Be the abundance that you are.

Be the beloved child of God that you are.

And how do you do this?

Choose to be happy. Speak positively and choose your words carefully. And as you do these things, you will be who you truly are.

Check back and see what my last 2 suggestions are for creating a tremendous life. And be sure and share this post with someone you know that needs a boost in creating a tremendous life for themselves.

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A New Word Brings A New Beginning and A New Epiphany

In my last post I shared about Epiphany Sunday and a couple of incidents where I had an epiphany – an “ah-ha” moment. I also told you that in my next post I would share some about the story of Moses and his moment of awareness and also about the word I got for my white stone. If you did not read my last post, you might want to do so before reading the rest of this one.

Moses and the Bush

I always loved the story of Moses and the burning bush. There he was out in the desert and he goes round a boulder and right in front of him is a bush that is on fire. Now the story says that the bush, while being on fire, is not burned up.

Too often, I think, we see this as the most wonderful and miraculous part of the story but I am beginning to understand that the thing we really should see as wonderful and miraculous is what happens next.

Our of the bush, a voice speaks and tells Moses to take his shoes off because he is standing on holy ground. This causes Moses to ask a question we need to ask – “who are you?”

And the voice tells him, “I am that I am.”

You see, ‘I am’ is the most wonderful name for the divine, for God. And it is a name we use so often in our daily conversation without even realizing its significance.

But how do we used the divine name in vain?

We use it in vain when we follow those words with anything that is unlike the true nature of God, things like too old, not smart enough, too poor.

My New Word

I mentioned in my last post that we were given a white stone at church and told that Spirit would reveal to us a new word to place on the stone. This would be a word of encouragement and inspiration from Spirit that would guide our lives.

So what word was I given?

The new word I was given was “available.”

As I thought about this word – available – I realized that while I thought I was available to God, I was really caught up in my own plans and ideas about my life and my purpose. And because of this, I had closed myself off from anything NEW that God might be wanting me to be available to and for. This helped me to see that there were things in my life that needed to end as new things began.

I remember some wise words I was given, “you don’t need to see or understand the whole journey you are on, you only need to be willing and available to take the next step that is right in front of you.”

And the next step that I seem to see in front of me is to share my message and thoughts with people and at the present time, this will be through my blog. This was something I had neglected for too long but now I realize that a blog on the internet has the potential of reaching multitudes of people as they read it and then share it with others.

And so I am taking this step and as I continue to meditate, read, write and trust that God is really in control then I know that I will see the next right step for me and I believe that I will take it as I continue on this wonderful spiritual journey called life.

Share this post with people that need some encouragement. And take time and share your thoughts, comments or any epiphanies that you have had.

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Resolutions Or Intentions – You Choose

Well, here we are now one and a half months into this new year, 2012. I’m wondering, did you make any New Year’s resolutions this year? And if so, how many are you still keeping?

I have not made New Year’s resolutions now for a number of years because I am very bad at keeping them. So the best way I have found to not break them was to just never make them.

But lately I have been thinking that I do need to make some changes in both my life and my self. And since resolutions are not working for me, I decided once again to try a method I have heard about before but which I have not been using.

I am once again going to try the spiritual practice of making intentions. (Just to let you know, the past few weeks I have been rereading some issues of a wonderful magazine, “Science of Mind,” and many of the articles I have read deal with intentions. So I took this as a sign, an indication that it was time to explore this subject again more fully and to see if I can put it into practice in my life.)

I thought I would share some of the ideas and information I found with you as we see how resolutions differ from intentions and then how to make an intention and watch as our lives are changed and miraculously transformed.

Many times we seem to interchange the words resolutions and intentions because they seem to involve the power and privilege of choice. But there are some differences that bear noting.

Resolutions usually involve the physical realm – we seek to change the circumstances of our lives – and they usually begin with a belief that something is “wrong” and needs to be fixed.

Intentions on the other hand rest in our soul consciousness or in our hearts. With an intention, we choose to align ourselves with our soul’s desire for expression. Intentions can be seen as the thoughts of God – divine ideas.

Here is an example of the differences between making resolutions and setting intentions. I will use a common one from life – loosing weight and exercising more.

We make resolutions to loose wight and exercise more because we decide that our body is in the wrong condition and we weigh too much. We decide though sheer determination to change our body. We join a gym or go to the YMCA. We seek to power ourselves by our will to make something happen. But we soon find that willpower is exhausting and we quickly loose our resolve to change. And our resolution is finished almost before it has even gotten started.

But how does this scene play out if we use intentions instead of resolutions?

It works from the inside out instead of the other way round.

It begins by seeing our self as the healthiest, most wholesome being NOW, not sometime in the future. Then we hold this image and truth in our awareness and consciousness and quite worrying about how it will manifest. If at sometime, we feel inspired or guided to make changes in our eating habits or exercise, we make these changes, not in order to make us the person we want to be, but we do it to allow the perfection and wholeness that we already are to manifest. It is as we change out thinking and our consciousness that we are then able to manifest in our physical life the perfection and wholeness that we already truly are!

We will talk more in the weeks ahead about intentions and I will share with you information about a book and a group that has helped me a lot in this area.

Feel free to share your thoughts, ideas and /or questions regarding the intention process. If you have an interesting experience with setting intentions, feel free to share these also.

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What Will You Create Today?

Today really is the first day of the rest of your life.

This day is like a blank sheet of paper – just waiting to see what you will create as you create the next greatest version of the grandest vision you have ever had of yourself.

This day is filled with infinite possibilities. Nothing is impossible — unless you choose for it to be.

So what will you create today?

Even though the year is already moving forward, it is never too late to take a few minutes today to contemplate your current version of yourself. Some areas you might examine are your physical body, your spiritual life and your emotions, your relationships, and your finances. Think about any of these areas or others that might come to mind. Look at where they are right now and look at them honestly.

This will give you a starting point as you seek to create a new and improved version of yourself.

After you look at these areas for a few moments, allow yourself to imagine what the next greatest version, the 2012 version, might look like. What would the next upgrade in that area include? Allow the changes to be as small or as grand as you want. For whatever it is, this will not be the final version of yourself that you will create. New upgrades can be made as often as you decide to create a new one. YOU are the creator.!

Let your imagination go free… pretend as if what you desire is already a reality… feel the new you… feel the change. Ask yourself “What would my life be like if this version was operating already?” How would you act? Think? Speak? Be?

During the days ahead, let thoughts and ideas come to you as what steps you need to take in order to create this new version, this 2012 version of the greatest vision that you have had about yourself. And as they come to you, take the steps and see where life leads you on your journey this year.

May this be your best year yet!!! I intend for it to be mine.