Are You The Victim of Your Own Self-Talk?
Is you life just a series of “self-fulfilling prophecies”? I am sure you know what this means, but if not, it refers to our ability to imagine that an event will happen to us and then we watch as it unfolds just as we imagined.
Usually when people think of self-fulfilling prophecies they refer to all of the bad things that occur in their lives.
This is because we worry so much about what it will be like when they do finally occur and this just sends out a message that we are expecting the accident, the illness, the lay-off at work, or the breakup in our relationship. And what happens, but what we expect.
I read somewhere that worry is just like praying for something we don’t want to happen.
So, if worrying is a good way to make something occur that you don’t want, then what can we use to make things occur that you do want?
The New Testament encourages us to think on things that are good, lovely, honest, pure and which cause a good report. It says for us to let these images fill our minds and hearts instead of those of gloom, doom and despair.
Often, before they occur, the subjects of our self-fulfilling prophecies show up and occupy our thoughts and they drift down and find expression in the things we say. We find ourselves talking about the things that we are worried about.
So what have you been talking about this past week? Have you found yourself saying any of the following statements?
- This is the worst week of my life.
- I expect this will never work out.
- I can’t imagine how this will ever change or get better.
- These all result in things not working and maybe even getting worse.
So how do we change this?
How do we make things happen differently in our lives?
One technique that I like to us is self-talk. Many people refer to this as using an affirmation. You might notice that the root of affirmation is “affirm” – to agree to, to say yes to.
Using affirmation is all about saying yes to what do want to happen in our lives instead of what we don’t want.
It changes our focus to one of allowing he good instead of resisting what we don’t desire. This helps us to cultivate good, positive and life-affirming and enhancing expectations.
So here are just a few affirmations that I love to use. Please feel free to leave you comments about any of these and also, if you have affirmations that you use, share them with all of us.
- I am grateful for all that I have.
- I am a vessel through which good flows.
- I am a beloved child of God and I don’t inherit sickness.
- I attract only good into my life by expecting only good.
Use these affirmations frequently and say them with conviction. Let yourself begin to feel what it is like for these words to be true. And as you do, this will keep you focused on the good,positive and life-enhancing expectations that you wish to manifest in your life.
And my friends, you will attract it!
for me the beginning of stopping the negative spiral was becoming aware of how my parents had talked to me. I had taken most of that in and was saying these things to myself.I had the vague idea that if I said that stuff to myself first nobody else would. I had to learn to be nice to myself.